It is not a secret that today’s young people handle technology much better than their parents , teachers and adults in general. The typical scene of a few years ago in which the child asked his parents how to do classwork has changed, and now shows parents who, overwhelmed by the pace at which technology advances, They must turn to their children to explain how to do X or Y thing on their mobile . And that is a major problem. How can parents ensure the safety of their children online if they do not know or control the tools they use?
Many parents look impotent before the “problems 2.0” of their offspring. They do not know what photos upload to social networks, with whom they speak forand about what, or what pages they visit. Definitely, They do not know what they do with their smartphones. Therefore, to address the problems that may arise (such as cyberbullying or extortion), parents have two “solutions”: or they take the mobile from their children (which does not solve the problem) or they spy it (which does not solve anything either).
It is not unusual that, from time to time, fathers and mothers write to us asking us tools to spy on your children’s WhatsApp . It is a complicated issue, because when a person has reached that point it is because he is slightly desperate. Today we want to shed some light on this issue, because Yes, you can spy WhatsApp – and all the activity that your child carries out on his mobile- , but the truth is that you should not do it.
We will not give the names of the tools under any circumstances.
And whoever says no, lies. Spy on your children’s WhatsApp conversations , what they do on Instagram, what they upload to Snapchat, the photos they send and receive, the photos of their gallery and even their location. All this can be monitor through specialized software which is sold, directly, as “espionage software”. After all, it is what it is.
All these services usually work more or less the same: you install an application on your children’s mobile -which happens to be a full-fledged spyware- and this takes care of collect everything they do on the mobile . These data are uploaded to a platform that parents can access from the computer browser to control everything, absolutely everything, what their ‘kids’ do.
These services are able to take pictures, record video, get audio and video live, record the pulsations on the screen through a keylogger … everything you can imagine.
And how does WhatsApp, Instagram, Facebook and company spy these types of apps? Recording the screen . You can configure the application to start recording whenever your children open WhatsApp and upload the clip when the session ends. This will appear on the platform and you will see everything : messages sent, received, photos, videos … just as he has seen it. As you see, power can be, and it is not excessively expensive either. It may not work on all devices, it may go better or worse or the quality may be higher or lower, but the service exists and is available to anyone .
Does that mean you should do it? Does it mean that you, as a parent, have the right to spy on your children’s WhatsApp, regardless of the situation they are in? In principle, and at least from an ethical point of view, no (although ethics is ethics, and we already know what is usually done with it on a daily basis). Nor is it legal to do so in Spain since 1995 (, Organic Law 10/1995, of November 23, of the Penal Code).
From here I speak to personal title . Even if you can spy on your children’s WhatsApp / mobile, you should not do it under any circumstances. What you should do is educate your children in the proper use of the tools that technology has put at your disposal , and teach him what is right and what is wrong. Someone will say “But how do you educate your children if you, as a parent, do not know how to use the tools?” . The answer is simple: learning and striving .
You must do your part to to be up to date , to understand how apps work and to know the risks involved in having a mobile phone connected to the Internet 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We agree that young people have a problem with their privacy, and do not have any problems in expose yourself to thousands of eyes that you go to know who they are . This is where parents must enter and intervene. But not removing the mobile, not by force, because that only makes the situation worse.
What do you gain by removing your child’s mobile? Do you solve the problem like this? No, you just put it aside , but this will still be there. Nobody prevents your child from using a friend’s cell phone to connect, nobody prevents the one who laughs at him from Instagram from school tomorrow. Strength is not the solution . “And which one is it?” , you will ask yourself. Empathy, dear reader, empathy.
You must try understand their problems and gain the trust of your children , may these be the ones who tell you their problems. Spying on them will only make them not trust you and generate rejection. Possibly that is not what you want. Remember that the lies have very short legs, and in the end everything ends up coming to light. It depends on you, and you will soon find these tools with a simple Google search . The question you must ask yourself is “Is it the best you can do as a parent?”