As for the family, the holiday season can lead to additional anxiety relief at the dinner table. A CBS News…
As for the family, the holiday season can lead to additional anxiety relief at the dinner table. Afinds that 40 percent of people try to avoid talking politics on Thanksgiving. But sometimes these conversations are inevitable, so New York Times science colonel John Tierney suggests: Do not try to win political arguments with facts and logic.
“These political opinions are really based on intestinal feelings and what social psychologists call moral intuitions. And Liberals and Conservatives just have different types of bowel concepts about what is fair, what is not fair, what is holy and what is taboo. do not change those feelings so you will not change, “said Tierney on Wednesday at” CBS This Morning. “
Try to get something out of the discussion he advised.
” Instead of telling people they are wrong, Ask them questions. You can learn something from even the strangest member of your family. And if you ask the right question, maybe they may consider their position. than to just come straight to them and tell them they’re wrong, Tierney said.
The conversation may become personal because “it is who they are and which tribe they belong to,” he said. So look for common ground.
“A little thing as both parties can agree and quickly change the topic ̵
1; like” These cranberries are good! Where do you have them? “You know that,” said Tierney.
If everyone fails, let the dinner guests talk about themselves.
“I think it’s the people’s favorite subject themselves and if you ask them enough and they’re talking enough, they think you are the most charming conversationist, “says Tierney.
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