In the case of metastatic breast cancer, Pink Ribbon Girls can share more stories than they would like to acknowledge.…
In the case of metastatic breast cancer, Pink Ribbon Girls can share more stories than they would like to acknowledge. Pink Ribbon Girls is an ideal company offering free direct services to customers with breast and gynecological cancer.
It’s the hard reality of the work they are in. Seventy percent of the customers currently served by PRG live with Mets Cancer. This means that 60 percent of the clients they earn will fight for cancer for the rest of their lives. While treated there is no cure for Mets, and the treatment is often hard and unforgivable.
Unfortunately, most people do not fully understand metastatic breast cancer. So many customers will need to declare over and over again that there is no cure and that their treatment will never end. It is not a condition that you can only “keep fighting” by just keeping yourself positive.
Pink Ribbon Girls CEO Heather Salazar and Marketing Manager Sarah Gillenwater recently visited one of their customers at Hospice. When they talked about the disease and the effects on their clients’ lives and family, they asked her what advice she would give to others who also went through this.
“Live one day at a time,” she replied. “Do not worry about life. Everything can change immediately and you can not rely on everything to go smoothly.”
You’ve heard that no cancer is routine. No two experiences are exactly alike, and because of it, people who try to be supportive do not always know how to answer and often say wrong.
Together, the three decided to come up with a top 1
0 list of doses and don’ts for those who do their best to support someone with cancer.
DOS AND DON’S TIME WHEN IT WILL SUPPORT ANY MANAGEMENT
1. Do not say: “You look good.”
It’s just something to say. You do not need to say anything at all. Not to say anything is an option.
2. Do not say things like: “You can do this. I’m a two-year survivor.”
Do not compare your story with my. Our stories are not the same.
3. Confirm that you may regret, but keep moving forward.
You can not do anything about what has already elapsed. Make the most of what’s coming.
4. Do not say: “Everything happens for a reason.”
You do not have to go through the cancers just to learn something from life.
5. Ask people for help.
But give yourself the pleasure of not wanting it.
6. Do not say: “Let me know if you need something.”
Just freaking shows up and doing it. If I do not want you there I will definitely let you know.
7. Let me do things on my own.
Stop hovering over me. Hovering is overwhelming. Let me decide what I have the strength to do.
The list must unfortunately stop there. After number seven, the client’s energy was clicked so they decided to rest would be better than pushing to finish it.
This is the clear message here. Living with metastatic cancer is not an easy journey. It is both mental and physical exertion for both the client and their families.
Here comes Pink Ribbon Girls in. The PRG mission is to balance the fear and insecurity that breast and gynecological cancer gives to individuals and families by providing free direct services of healthy food, housecleaning, rides for treatment and peer support to customers. They have served this client on and off since her original diagnosis three years ago.
“You have no idea how much this client and her family mean to us,” said Salazar. “She’s a big part of our lives and seeing her go through this just burns the fire that wants to do more. When her treatment ends, she will leave her husband and three beautiful young children. She’s just one of so many customers and their families who are on this trip. We do what we can and wish we could do more. We bear this burden and hope that lets them give the mental and physical space to love their families and focus on living their best life now. “
Pink Ribbon Girls hope to use this experience to help educate society about the reality of metastatic breast cancer.
“At PRG, we are less aware of the awareness and more about the action. We understand the importance of awareness and research, but they still have a long way to go on cure. These customers need us right now. That’s why we are here. They live with cancer 24/7. It’s not just an October issue for them or us. We’re focused on these 365 days of the year, “said Gillenwater.