(ABC News) – When the children are small, their faces shine against mother and father's eyesight. But quickly for a…
(ABC News) – When the children are small, their faces shine against mother and father’s eyesight. But quickly for a few years, and the same parents get so small eye rollers.
Youth is a time to navigate self-esteem and mutual pressure from all angles, but what do some teenagers like while others struggle with anxiety and depression?
While previous reports have credited environmental hazard factors, such as poverty and racism, for anxiety and depression in teenage years, another study adds to another: a fracture in the parent child.
As teenage students in the study moved through youth, their connection to their parents changed significantly, with the biggest decline in the middle school. Attachment levels stabilized at the end of the upper secondary school, but the more a teenager felt alienated during his teenager, the less likely they were to trust and communicate with their parents.
Dr. Suniya Luthar, co-author of the study, told ABC News that parents can prevent these feelings of distrust to develop.
“It would be helpful if the parents would review all the mood, distance and annoyance and express feelings of love and affirmation,” said Luthar, a basic professor of psychology at Arizona State University.
The study included 335 children in 6th grade 1
998, who lived in a prosperous official. Each of the children received an annual assessment until they were 18, which prompted them to rate their attachment to both their mothers and dads, as well as their levels of anxiety and depression.
They found that higher interest rates emotional alienation from parents were linked to more emotional problems. Preteens felt especially over one and a half times as alienated in the middle school as they did at an earlier age, and reported a triple decline in confidence. As a result, communication seems to decrease about four times as much.
Teenagers who felt more alienated and thus lost confidence in their mothers (more than fathers) were more likely to have major anxiety in the 12th grade. It was also true for depression.
A surprise: The more communication increased at the end of the upper secondary school, the more likely the teens would experience symptoms of depression.
The study, published in the Journal of Development and Psychopathology, did not ask parents about their children, but Luthar said it is because the teenagers feel more. Parents can protect their teens mental health if at least one of them has a strong supportive relationship with the teenage years.
But Luthar added that the parents should be there for their children, they must take care of themselves first.
“Parents, especially mothers, are also emotionally hurt,” says Luthar.
During a crisis, “they act as first respondents, which means they do their best to diffuse a stressful situation.”
This puts mothers at risk for their own depression, said Luthar, and urges mothers to focus on their own mental health first so that they can make sure teens feel heard and connected.
“Do not pour an empty or leaking cup,” she said. “Fill it first.”